Stress thoughts are thoughts that indicate internal tension is rising. They almost always focus on the other person and keep the focus off of the self. When thoughts are focused on the other, control over the situation appears to be in the hands of the other. Noticing when these thoughts are occurring puts the focus back on your own behavior and can help you realize your internal pressure is rising. Noticing stress thoughts can indicate that you need to change your tone or behavior in order to avoid creating an unnecessarily negative interaction.

Examples:

• "What an idiot."
• "She has no idea what she is talking about. I wish she would just shut up."
• "All he does is complain."
• "Get your paws off my fax!"

For more tips, check out our "Stress Thoughts and Physical Cues" tool.

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